Yes I've read the books. And I'm sorry, but I thought they were a bit "vanilla" to use Mr Grey's terminology, so have no real expectation of the movie being anything but soft-filtered soft porn.
I hate the word feminist - I see myself as a person who happens to have in-ny-bits instead of out-y bits. I leave the DIY to my husband because he enjoys it and is better at it than me, and I cook because he would live on toast and I like showing off in the kitchen.
I have been in, and witnessed at very close quarters, manipulative, violent and abusive relationships. I still cannot see how 50 Shades of Grey does anything to encourage the sort of person who abuses their so called partner any further than their own twisted mind does.
Abuse pre-dates modern media. Fact.
Does this kind of book or film make it seem more acceptable and in turn give people "permission" to act in this way? I don't think so. And anyway I can't see how this lightweight fantasy is any worse than The Wolf of Wall Street which if you take it all that seriously is abusive to just about every member of society from women to little people.
I know there are people out there that genuinely enjoy this kind of dom/submissive relationship. And as long as it's mutual whats the harm? I had a friend whose boyfriend enjoyed a very submissive role in the bedroom and apart from marvelling about how "it takes all sorts" I just laughed with her at her descriptions of their antics.
I will not be going to see the film and to be honest am expecting my friends who are to come back and tell me they were disappointed. It will be smoke and mirrors and no actually hanky panky - you will have to spend, oh I don't know, about 2 minutes on the internet to find some real depraved porn.
Oh and by the way, if there are any handsome billionaires out there who want to keep me, pay for my clothes, feed me up and insist I get plenty of sleep in return for a bit of slap and tickle, my husband says -"Go for it!" (and good luck!)
If you feel you are in, or at risk of being in an abusive relationship please get help. You could start HERE
I hate the word feminist - I see myself as a person who happens to have in-ny-bits instead of out-y bits. I leave the DIY to my husband because he enjoys it and is better at it than me, and I cook because he would live on toast and I like showing off in the kitchen.
I have been in, and witnessed at very close quarters, manipulative, violent and abusive relationships. I still cannot see how 50 Shades of Grey does anything to encourage the sort of person who abuses their so called partner any further than their own twisted mind does.
Abuse pre-dates modern media. Fact.
Does this kind of book or film make it seem more acceptable and in turn give people "permission" to act in this way? I don't think so. And anyway I can't see how this lightweight fantasy is any worse than The Wolf of Wall Street which if you take it all that seriously is abusive to just about every member of society from women to little people.
I know there are people out there that genuinely enjoy this kind of dom/submissive relationship. And as long as it's mutual whats the harm? I had a friend whose boyfriend enjoyed a very submissive role in the bedroom and apart from marvelling about how "it takes all sorts" I just laughed with her at her descriptions of their antics.
I will not be going to see the film and to be honest am expecting my friends who are to come back and tell me they were disappointed. It will be smoke and mirrors and no actually hanky panky - you will have to spend, oh I don't know, about 2 minutes on the internet to find some real depraved porn.
Oh and by the way, if there are any handsome billionaires out there who want to keep me, pay for my clothes, feed me up and insist I get plenty of sleep in return for a bit of slap and tickle, my husband says -"Go for it!" (and good luck!)
If you feel you are in, or at risk of being in an abusive relationship please get help. You could start HERE
Do you know what, I am sick to the back teeth of hearing about this franchise. Everywhere I look I see some kind of "fifty shades of..." promotion. I attempted to read the books, but couldn't even make it to halfway. All the gasping and "oh, my" made me want to reach into the book and shake the silly moron. I have no intention of seeing the movie, and like you am sure that friends who do go to see it will be disappointed! From the critics reviews I've glimpsed over, the sex scenes are few and far between.
ReplyDeleteAs for those saying it 'glamourises abuse'...please. Its a fictional story. If a person has it in their head that they are going to beat their partner, its not because Mr Grey has told them its foreplay.
Absolute radio did however have a fantastic sequence this week, where they changed words in passages of the books to a completely unrelated theme. Fifty Shades of Trains was my favourite, closely followed by fifty shades of the 80's - you should definitely check out that podcast when its up tomorrow!
Thanks. I'm glad someone agrees with me. I love the sound of that show- fifty shades of trains!
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ReplyDeleteI feel the same way, I do believe that people are making way too much of the book and film.
Some people like a bit of slap with their tickle, who gives a toss what happens so long as it's consensual, people really need to grow up!
We are becoming such an over sensitive society that soon everything will be censored in case it offends someone.
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DeleteWhilst I accept there are things which are genuinely offensive and should rightly be censored, people are taking it all too far, and it's so very hypercritical too. We can print newspapers which mock religion but Page 3 boobs and bit of spanking "whoa moral depravity" at large, urgh, live and let live I say