50 shades of nonsense

Yes I've read the books. And I'm sorry, but I thought they were a bit "vanilla" to use Mr Grey's terminology, so have no real expectation of the movie being anything but soft-filtered soft porn.

I hate the word feminist - I see myself as a person who happens to have in-ny-bits instead of out-y bits. I leave the DIY to my husband because he enjoys it and is better at it than me, and I cook because he would live on toast and I like showing off in the kitchen.

I have been in, and witnessed at very close quarters, manipulative, violent and abusive relationships. I  still cannot see how 50 Shades of Grey does anything to encourage the sort of person who abuses their so called partner any further than their own twisted mind does.

Abuse pre-dates modern media. Fact.

Does this kind of book or film make it seem more acceptable and in turn give people "permission" to act in this way?  I don't think so. And anyway I can't see how this lightweight fantasy is any worse than The Wolf of Wall Street which if you take it all that seriously is abusive to just about every member of society from women to little people.

I know there are people out there that genuinely enjoy this kind of dom/submissive relationship. And as long as it's mutual whats the harm? I had a friend whose boyfriend enjoyed a very submissive role in the bedroom and apart from marvelling about how "it takes all sorts" I just laughed with her at her descriptions of their antics.

I will not be going to see the film and to be honest am expecting my friends who are to come back and tell me they were disappointed. It will be smoke and mirrors and no actually hanky panky - you will have to spend, oh I don't know, about 2 minutes on the internet to find some real depraved porn.

Oh and by the way,  if there are any handsome billionaires out there who want to keep me, pay for my clothes, feed me up and insist I get plenty of sleep in return for a bit of slap and tickle, my husband says -"Go for it!" (and good luck!)

If you feel you are in, or at risk of being in an abusive relationship please get help. You could start HERE