Monday, 22 January 2018

What Kind of Mother Am I? Part 2. The SEND Edition!

A few years ago I was invited to be a keynote speaker at Britmums, sharing my blog post What Kind of Mother Am I? which outlined all the things I said I wouldn't do before actually having children and how that actually worked out for me.

madmumof7 keynote speaker at Britmums Live

For instance I planned to be a 1950's style mother offering healthy homemade food, encouraging constructive, educational play, preferably with wooden toys and listening to each and every word they say with smiles, genuine interest, and be ready to answer all their queries and applaud all of their creative efforts without pause.

Now if you are having, or have just had a baby you probably also have this vision of you embracing motherhood in this way too.  Let me tell you *leans in and whispers* sorry love - mostly it ain't gonna happen!

For years I had piles of brightly coloured plastic tat with brain curdling electronic music which often started randomly in the middle of the night. Forget screeching violins, horror films should have the Thomas the Tank Engine theme tune, preferably with an element of low battery-warped sound effect playing in the corner of the nervous actress's dark bedroom.

Wooden toys are lovely but mostly children don't want to play with them. They are mostly the sort of things you buy when pregnant and your childless friends buy at Christmas.

Since I wrote that blog post my youngest child has been diagnosed with ASD and we have been on a steep learning curve of parenting a child with SEND. (SEND stands for special educational needs and disability).
child with ASD on bench

Even though I have already raised 6 children, we have had to change our parenting style considerably and let go of habits and techniques which had previously worked on the whole but frankly are useless for a child with autism. Well certainly for OUR child with autism.

So here it is. The revised version of What Kind of Mother Am I.

Wednesday, 17 January 2018

Everything you need to know about baby colic & anti-colic bottles

Infantile colic, more popularly known as baby colic, affects up to 40% of all babies. Although baby colic is generally considered benign, it can create a very tense atmosphere at home for both the affected babies and parents. 

baby colic

Thankfully, for most babies, anti-colic bottles provide a great and quick solution to the problem.

What is baby colic?

Baby colic is medically defined as a condition which causes infants to cry inconsolably for more than three hours daily, at least three days a week, over a continuous period of more than three weeks. 

The condition typically peaks around six weeks after birth, and in most cases, gradually resolves itself when the baby is aged between three and six months old. Some babies continue to demonstrate symptoms of colic until the age of one. However, the numbers are relatively small.

Babies with colic usually cry because of feelings of discomfort in the stomach and intestine area, as well as, in rare cases, slight constipation-related pain, which may get exacerbated if they pass a lot of gas. Aside from crying, babies typically react to the discomfort by arching their back, pulling up both legs, or clenching their fists in an attempt to mimic the comfort of the womb.

What is the cause of baby colic?

The exact causes of baby colic remain a mystery to the medical community. However, researchers believe that it is caused by one or a combination of the following factors: